Listen up and live

Listening, as we all know, is one of the deepest forms of respect. Listening to each other and genuinely being engaged within that conversation should be a consistent behaviour. However, we’re all guilty of not ‘being there’ listening and absorbing both what is being said and what is not being said; that takes 100% attention […]

Go, get in the queue, get over it and go on

Us Brits do some things extremely well and one of our national skills and characteristics is our ability to form and participate correctly in a queue. It’s one of those life skills that you learn by getting it wrong;  you step out of line, speak before it’s your actual turn, stand a little too close […]

Reasons to be cheerful 1,2,3

So I guess if you’re anywhere near my age you’re now humming that song (Ian Dury and the Blockheads Reasons to be Cheerful Part 3 by the way. yr welcome. I apologise in advance due to the fact that it’ll be going round in your head for at least an hour) and it’s a good […]

Reflections on holiday essentials and Breast Cancer Awareness Month UK

As we reach the hump of the month and in particular Breast Cancer Awareness Month in the UK I thought it was time to touch base. Hello again. Just because I haven’t written much here doesn’t mean I haven’t been doing much. I’ve even managed a holiday in the sun. Well I say in the […]

An Open Letter to those going through Chemotherapy

Dear Chemotherapy patients, I’ve made notes about this letter and started it many times but struggled to find the right words to say. I guess it’s because what I really feel I should be starting with is an admission of guilt; that I feel quite fraudulent in your company. There I’ve said it. I feel […]

Just call me a ‘Rad Grad’ or ‘Completely Baked’

It’s done, it’s done, it’s done. My 20 sessions of Radiotherapy are complete and tomorrow we don’t have to take a 3 hour chunk out of our day to drive to Oxford to the Churchill Hospital. That will be a genuinely lovely feeling. It’s a very strange feeling also as you complete an active phase […]

Guest post: A son’s perspective ‘Cancer has changed you’

As we approach a milestone with Mum’s treatment (as I’m writing there are just two further radiotherapy treatments remaining) I can’t help but feel torn; on one hand the end of the radiotherapy signifies the end of a trying and emotional year, on the other there is the realisation that it is not a final […]

Half Way Day and a view towards the end of Radiotherapy

This is a photo I took yesterday of one of the rooms in the Maggie’s Centre within the grounds of the Churchill Hospital in Oxford. Isn’t it a beautiful space? I love the fact that one of their principles is that they encourage you to ‘come and talk about you as a person rather than […]

The dating game aka how things are going with Varian6?

I wasn’t sure what image to select to use for this post and thought that I’d have a browse through some recent pictures to see if anything triggered some inspiration. I didn’t have to go very far before I saw this one and knew that it fitted perfectly. The reason is because it’s actually a […]