If we were having coffee………

…..…I’d tell you that today is exactly one year since I had a routine mammogram that flagged up that something was amiss. I’d mention when you asked that no, the mammogram didn’t spot the cancer that was growing inside me but it did pick up a cyst and that was enough to raise the red […]

Z is for Zometa and Zonked

I can hardly believe that it’s the end of January already, the end of the first month of 2016. Time flies when you’re having fun doesn’t it and it would seem it flies also when you’re not. January has been full of the ubiquitous highs and lows of life much like my body temperature. Typically […]

Mind the Gap

Mind the gap; that ubiquitous phrase that we hear on the London Tube reminds us that the space between where we are and where we are intending to be holds an element of challenge and a need to be mindful. This is so relevant once you have a cancer diagnosis because your intended destination is […]

Forgive us when we switch tribes

Warning: you definitely need a cuppa to accompany you as you read this longer post from me. It’s an essay I wrote in response to a request for submissions for a publication regarding helping people who have received a cancer diagnosis. I suspect that many people made practical suggestions (make dinner, walk the dog, change […]

Zometa, aspirin and emotional blunting

I’ve had one of those weeks that contained lovely things, happy events, meeting new people and catching up with a whole bevvy of long term friends; genuinely it’s been wonderful to spend time with people who have been in my life for a long time and those who to date have been here a very […]

Be unafraid to be yourself

As I left Maggie’s Centre a couple of weeks ago I was handed a book to borrow which the team there thought might be interesting and meaningful to me. Its title ‘The Cancer Survivor’s Companion’ (by Dr Frances Goodhart and Lucy Atkins) somehow does not sit right with me; I can’t explain why but perhaps […]

An Open Letter to those going through Chemotherapy

Dear Chemotherapy patients, I’ve made notes about this letter and started it many times but struggled to find the right words to say. I guess it’s because what I really feel I should be starting with is an admission of guilt; that I feel quite fraudulent in your company. There I’ve said it. I feel […]

Guest post: Keeping Mum when cancer comes to visit your family

As a tribute to my Mum who sadly passed away three weeks ago, it seems timely to reblog this guest post that she wrote. It’s great to read at the end of the post that she felt it was a privilege to call Steve her son-in-law and he did her proud by masterfully doing the […]

Guest post: A son’s perspective ‘Cancer has changed you’

As we approach a milestone with Mum’s treatment (as I’m writing there are just two further radiotherapy treatments remaining) I can’t help but feel torn; on one hand the end of the radiotherapy signifies the end of a trying and emotional year, on the other there is the realisation that it is not a final […]